When will I fall in love?

4th Oct 2014

I had some reservations about posting this, as it is likely to receive a good bit of negative critiques. However, I realized that I am not alone in this, and other mothers should be aware of this and know it is normal and OK.   I see this beautiful baby sound asleep on my chest and I feel…nothing. Actually, that’s not true, I do feel something but it isn’t positive; it’s guilt. I feel guilty for some reason because I do not feel that feeling every other mother talks about. All I ever wanted was to be a mother and I pressured my husband to have children sooner than he initially wanted. I was so sure that having a baby would so instantly enhance my life and just make my heart burst out of my chest like it does when I think of my husband. I am well read when […]

Newborn amazement

10th Dec 2013

I am often asked, “Why do you love newborns so much?”   Is it their innocence, their fragility, their helplessness? Certainly a combination of those attributes, but also their daily, almost hourly, maturation. It seems as if their hair grows just a little bit longer while they are down for a nap. They are more curious every day, and gain strength in their extremities at an impressive rate. Babies are a miracle and a mystery of the world, both human and otherwise. Babies are tiny humans, and learn how to be a human by watching, hearing and mimicking the world around them. These tiny humans are born with everything they need to not only survive, but to flourish in this tough world. They can breath air almost immediately after birth, when they have been swimming in fluid ever since conception. They can hear, while still in the womb. Their hearts […]